What time will our love become clear?
“Are you flirting or are you just friends?”
“Are you dating or just chatting?”
“Committed or just passing through?” These questions are circling the minds of many people who have encountered relationships without clear labels. We see unclear love as being like waiting for a bus with no schedule. It may come at any time or may not come at all. But we still have to สมัคร UFABET วันนี้ รับเครดิตฟรีสำหรับสมาชิกใหม่ decide whether to wait a little longer or change our path. From this confusion, LIFE would like to introduce readers to ways to deal with ambiguous feelings that are the starting point that makes your life more chaotic than necessary. Let’s think of a way out together that allows you to still be yourself without losing your dignity and wasting your time.
“Love is not a win-lose negotiation, it’s a choice of what you’re willing to suffer for, ” writes Mark Manson in his book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life . It reflects that clarity in love should start with asking yourself what you’re willing to suffer for.
1. Ask yourself questions first.
Before asking him what we are “to each other,” ask yourself first what you really want. Do you want to chat or do you want to commit? Because if you yourself are not clear, why would you demand clarity from him?
2. Communicate directly, no need to play games.
“Did your Line chat disappear?” “Why aren’t you replying to my story after seeing it?” Instead of playing the guessing game, try telling me directly how you feel. “I like talking to you and I’m curious to see where we’re going.” That alone can help a lot.
3. Observe actions more than words.
He might say he likes you but never has time for you, or he might say he has nothing to offer you but he always cares for you and gives you importance. Actions speak louder than words.
As Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity, says, “Love is not possession, but two people caring for each other’s space.” Clarity is not about status, but rather about how much you value the relationship.
4. Set yourself a deadline.
If you’ve been confused for too long, try setting a deadline for yourself on when you’ll wait for clarity. Not to pressure the other person, but to allow yourself to move forward. If the deadline has passed and you still don’t get clarity, it could be the answer that he or she isn’t ready for what you want.
5. Value yourself.
Remember, you are too valuable to let anyone confuse you. If he really wants you, he won’t make you doubt yourself. Clarity may not come when you want it, but it will come in the form you deserve.
6. Let go sometimes.
Sometimes, uncertainty is the clearest answer. Someone who truly cares about you won’t make you doubt their feelings or intentions. If it’s too difficult from the start, think about how difficult it will be as the relationship develops.
7. Accept that some relationships don’t need names.
Sometimes a good relationship doesn’t need a name, as long as both parties understand and are happy with what it is. Not having a label isn’t always a problem, but the ambiguity that makes one party feel insecure is the problem.
8. Love yourself first.
Ultimately, no matter how the relationship develops, remember that love for yourself comes first. Because if you are still weak with uncertainty, you may waste time waiting for something that will never happen.